It depends on where you stand. Wikipedia explains the Rashomon effect:
The Rashomon effect is the effect of the subjectivity of perception on recollection, by which observers of an event are able to produce substantially different but equally plausible accounts of it. A useful demonstration of this principle in scientific understanding can be found in the article "The Rashomon Effect: When Ethnographers Disagree," by Karl G. Heider (American Anthropologist, March 1988, Vol. 90 No. 1, pp. 73-81).
I emphasize that remembered events of the past are from a singular perspective, that is, "his-story", and by re-viewing an event of the past from varying angles and perspectives, a person can learn to look at a situation with a more positive feeling, keep the positive learning's and let go of the negative feeling(s) associated with the event. I assist clients using anchoring. I call it Memory Cleanse. Why is this so important and of value? Because our stuff from the past can come back to haunt us when we least expect it. Triggers in our environment and from other people set us off. Why not create new neural pathways that work for you rather than against you. See me for consultation. Text or call 801.918.9437. In Person, Phone, or Skype sessions available.